The author, who describes themselves as impulsive, bossy, overwhelming and judgmental, turned to artificial intelligence to improve “soft skills.” After a colleague dismissed a project idea by saying the author lacked relevant expertise, the author drafted an infuriated reply, then showed the colleague’s email to an AI. The AI, lacking the author’s baggage of past gripes, helped the author see that a highlight reel from a 30-year career would not improve the situation; instead, the author needed to provide information addressing the colleague’s specific concerns, and then replied warmly and constructively. AI also helped the author resist snap judgments. When a colleague said a joint project timeline had to change because of a surprise in her schedule, the author concluded she was undependable, a flake or a liar, and vented to the AI, feeling lousy afterward.